Whether you call it the G Spot or the O Spot, it's the place that every man should be aiming to please and the spot every woman wants stimulated. Although it's true that many women aren't stimulated by their G Spot, it's highly likely that they've never had a partner who successfully reached for the G-oal. I think that many women who say they haven't come to orgasm during penetration probably just never had a man to hit it right. This is something that must be addressed. If you are gonna hit it, then hit it right... or at least try to! There are three definite positions that can help to accomplish hitting your Goals!
Missionary with a twist:
If Missionary always equaled hitting the G Spot, I wouldn't feel the need to write this blog but unfortunately it doesn't always end in Orgasms for women... The thing is like all things standard, you have to be creative with it to make it interesting again. Add a little something. So let's get right to it. While your guy is on top, lift your left leg up over his shoulder, and position your right leg between both his legs make sure he stays inside of you and his upper body isn't bent over you, he needs to be upright, almost as if he is on his knees with your left leg extended in front of him or straddled over his right shoulder. He can use your left leg to support his thrusting, or suck your toes, depends on how he gets down. At this level of penetration you should feel something great, if not, try switching legs, but make sure your leg is in front on him almost like scissors. This is a fool proof way to get to the Big O.
Arched Doggy Style:
This is about as simple as 1,2,3. 1. Prepare yourself for doggy style. 2. Woman arches her back inward, bend your legs at the knees towards your waist and spread your legs as far apart as you can to increase penetration. 3. Man kneels behind with his legs between hers. Once inside to maintain position, man grabs her waist and holds tightly especially during thrusting to keep her from moving to far away from him while he's stroking. This position works wonders for the G Spot, also consider wrapping your legs around his waist and meeting his thrusts with intense circular grinding, almost like you would while riding the D.
Upside Down Missionary:
This is my favorite, it always works. You'll need a bed or something sturdy to hold your weight and not too high up so that you won't risk hurting yourself in case you loose your balance. Ladies lie on your back and scoot your head towards the edge until only the small of your back is actually on top of the bed. Spread your legs eagle style to allow him complete access to your sexy parts. You can give yourself some support by placing a hand to the floor or if your bed is mounted to the floor you can hold on to the base. Once your guy is inside of you he must maintain his own balance because your positioning is very risky. He can do so by also arching his back away from you, holding your waist or gripping your thighs. Guys, hold on to her as you thrust to give her some support but please maintain that your lady's back is completely off of the bed/table top. This arch in the back gives you both the positioning you need to give the G Spot the attention it needs. Do not try to bang this one out, go nice and slow, even if you thrust rough or hard, don't try to do this with lots of speed, you may end up in the emergency room. No one wants that.
If these positions don't work, there are other ways that I haven't listed and I probably will in a future blog, when I can figure out how to accurately describe positioning instructions.
Have fun trying these positions and be careful.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Monday, July 5, 2010
Realizing your masturbating potential
Yes. You do have the ability to masturbate. You have the potential to be the master of your pleasure. To some this may seem like an odd thing to believe. I honestly am astonished that there are still some women.. and men who don't touch themselves in an intimate way. Are they wrong? Of course not, but they are missing out on a few things such as:
Sexual Liberation. Masturbating is sexually liberating because it takes away the need to have someone else satisfy you, you are at liberty to have an orgasm at any moment you choose. Masturbating allows you to learn what it is that gets you off, and nothing feels better than knowing that you know your body.People who know their bodies are confident in what they want. Masturbating gives you the opportunity to learn your body not just in the form of getting it off, but realizing how sexual you are and how sexy you can be when you're turned on.
Sexual Confidence. Many people aren't comfortable asking their partner for what they want in bed therefore spending their lives trying to find the person that just knows their body. This bad habit is responsible for a lot of cheating... imagine spending your life trying to find someone who knows your body. How can you expect someone to know something about you that you don't know yourself. Masturbating can give you the confidence to ask your lover for exactly what you want. Many marriages and relationships end because of sexual differences or pure bedroom boredom, this could be avoided if we were more aware of our needs.
Sexual Gratitude. Sounds funny, but once you've voiced your needs, you are ready to reciprocate. Masturbating not only makes you confidence in your body, but you now know you have the ability to be sexually pleasing not only to yourself but to your partner. You are not bound by the puzzling questions as to whether what you do is pleasing or do you look good doing it. You know you do, and you are not so focused on getting yours because you're so amazingly capable of doing it yourself.
There are so many benefits to giving yourself pleasure. Look in the mirror while you do it, find out what it is like on the other end... see how amazing you look when enjoying your body. See what your partners see, and realize that there is nothing wrong with giving yourself a nut every now and then.
Sexual Liberation. Masturbating is sexually liberating because it takes away the need to have someone else satisfy you, you are at liberty to have an orgasm at any moment you choose. Masturbating allows you to learn what it is that gets you off, and nothing feels better than knowing that you know your body.People who know their bodies are confident in what they want. Masturbating gives you the opportunity to learn your body not just in the form of getting it off, but realizing how sexual you are and how sexy you can be when you're turned on.
Sexual Confidence. Many people aren't comfortable asking their partner for what they want in bed therefore spending their lives trying to find the person that just knows their body. This bad habit is responsible for a lot of cheating... imagine spending your life trying to find someone who knows your body. How can you expect someone to know something about you that you don't know yourself. Masturbating can give you the confidence to ask your lover for exactly what you want. Many marriages and relationships end because of sexual differences or pure bedroom boredom, this could be avoided if we were more aware of our needs.
Sexual Gratitude. Sounds funny, but once you've voiced your needs, you are ready to reciprocate. Masturbating not only makes you confidence in your body, but you now know you have the ability to be sexually pleasing not only to yourself but to your partner. You are not bound by the puzzling questions as to whether what you do is pleasing or do you look good doing it. You know you do, and you are not so focused on getting yours because you're so amazingly capable of doing it yourself.
There are so many benefits to giving yourself pleasure. Look in the mirror while you do it, find out what it is like on the other end... see how amazing you look when enjoying your body. See what your partners see, and realize that there is nothing wrong with giving yourself a nut every now and then.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Make buying your first sex toy a date night.
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Wednesday, January 6, 2010
How to Enjoy Giving Your Guy Oral Sex
Most women don't like to give head for plenty of reasons. The number one reason guys say (and I stress "say) they cheat is due to lack of oral satisfaction from their woman. We need to tackle this issue because if you don't like doing it, it shows therefore making the experience less pleasing to your guy. Giving head may not be at the top of your list, but it should be a bedroom priority. Giving a man head is something that can be intimidating and for some women disgusting. So I am going to talk you through a few things: Mental preparation, physical techniques as well visual stimuli that can be used to help you get him off.
First things first, if you don't like giving head, you are not alone lots of women don't like to or refuse to do it at all. If you are not willing to try it you are very selfish. Think about how you'd feel if your guys was saying "ewww" and looking disgusted while giving you oral. Or if he told you he wouldn't do it. You'd be pretty insecure about your V-Jay or your sex life not to mention it'd turn you off. So imagine how your disgusted facial expressions and childish attitude may effect your dude, trust me it's not arousing. You have to treat dick sucking like a job that pays well, whether you like it or not, you benefit largely from it when your performance is outstanding (if you don't, you are sexing with the wrong man... a good man appreciates some good head)
Mentally prepare yourself, look at it often. Make yourself aware of it's length and width. Give him a hand job... touch it, stroke it watch that penis as it becomes hard. Get really up close and personal during the hand job, you want to get used to the way it smells as well (hopefully your guys has good hygiene) everyone has a smell about them especially during arousal. Pay attention to what he likes, this will help when you are ready to take the dive. While giving him that hand job imagine how great he feels inside of you, pay attention as you stroke him and notice how the size and length changes during different points of arousal. You will soon begin to notice that the tip is sensitive to your touch. You may even become aroused yourself. If you have never given head or haven't done it many times, you should give these therapeutic hand jobs often to get acquainted with his penis. After a few hand sessions, tease him during the next hand job by making circles with your tongue around the tip and "mushroom" shaped area, get used to placing your tongue and lips around it. He will enjoy the surprise guest. His pleasure should arouse you, if you are not moist then continue to do this every now and then until you are.
Once you are used to the look, feel and initial taste of the dick you are ready to move on to the oral part. While giving him a hand job that includes your surprise guest, take this time to go further than the tip, lick the entire length of the penis as if it's his tongue, very slow and make a little eye contact... not too much though your focus has to be the dick. See how he responds with anticipation, continue licking until his penis is at it's peak. Isn't it sexy to see how big it is all because you licked it, doesn't it turn you on just knowing you have the power to please your man with more than just your coochie?
Once you get your power rush you are ready to put him inside of your mouth and remember those things you did while using your hand. You went up and down, do not try to put the whole thing in your mouth; it is too early for you and you may ruin all of your mental preparation especially if he is big and you gag. Take your time, it's not a contest and he is just going to be happy you are doing it. It is not expected of you to stay down there forever so relax and continue to visualize how good this dick is when it's inside of you and remember that saliva helps, it will help to keep him aroused and keep your lips from chapping during the session. Be sexy by moaning and using your hands to give attention to the rest of him i.e. his thighs, chest, balls and stomach. He is bound to join in and caress your hair, shoulders or breasts depending on what's within his reach. You can do this for a few minutes and trust me he'll be glad you tried it.
Note: if he pushes your head down to get in deeper and you don't like it: discontinue the head. He'll be sure not to do it the next time you decide to give him oral.
When you start to practice this orientation head after a while you may find yourself enjoying it, you may even join in by masturbating as you suck his dick, it is a great way to connect his pleasure with your own and he'll enjoy the view. Making eye contact is necessary but not during the entire process. He wants to look at you and he's more comfortable doing so when you are focused on pleasing him, not watching his :O faces. Once you have this down and you begin to get used to giving him head, you should be ready to go all the way. You should be ready to suck him until he reaches orgasm. First thing's first consistency. You must be prepared to use the same tongue/mouth motions because like the clitoris once it's ready to :O the motion needs to be swift, steady and slippery. Keep in mind that your mouth is like the vagina during oral and you need to be moving up and down on the dick, you may include your hands into the motion to add pressure for his pleasure. Saliva or moisture is also a necessity, you don't want to use lube unless it's flavored. We personally don't like the way any lube tastes and saliva works the best because it's already in your mouth. Pay close attention to the nuts and legs, when they become stiff and drawn in it's show time. Don't get to geeked, it may be a womp womp so keep going at your same pace until the :O appears. Swallowing is for the truly freaky and is completely up to you. If you are not a swallower (us either sorry but we just can't) you may want to let him know before going down there so that you guys have a signal for you to move before he cums. You may also catch it in your mouth and discreetly get rid of it afterward.
TIPS FOR INCREASING YOUR DESIRE TO SUCK IT:
Masturbate without orgasming before going down on him. It will create anticipation and you'll already be aroused and ready for some action.
Using your breasts. Place him inside your cleavage (don't forget the lube to avoid chaffing) and move your twins up and down the length of his dick it will feel good to both of you and he'll enjoy the view.
Asking him to play with or lick your pussy while you give him oral.
Playing a flick loudly while you are going down on him the moans may help to get you in the mood.
*This is only advice for women who are in a relationship with a man whom they love enough to learn to satisfy orally. If you are only involved in a booty call he is not worth giving good head or any head to IMO
First things first, if you don't like giving head, you are not alone lots of women don't like to or refuse to do it at all. If you are not willing to try it you are very selfish. Think about how you'd feel if your guys was saying "ewww" and looking disgusted while giving you oral. Or if he told you he wouldn't do it. You'd be pretty insecure about your V-Jay or your sex life not to mention it'd turn you off. So imagine how your disgusted facial expressions and childish attitude may effect your dude, trust me it's not arousing. You have to treat dick sucking like a job that pays well, whether you like it or not, you benefit largely from it when your performance is outstanding (if you don't, you are sexing with the wrong man... a good man appreciates some good head)
Mentally prepare yourself, look at it often. Make yourself aware of it's length and width. Give him a hand job... touch it, stroke it watch that penis as it becomes hard. Get really up close and personal during the hand job, you want to get used to the way it smells as well (hopefully your guys has good hygiene) everyone has a smell about them especially during arousal. Pay attention to what he likes, this will help when you are ready to take the dive. While giving him that hand job imagine how great he feels inside of you, pay attention as you stroke him and notice how the size and length changes during different points of arousal. You will soon begin to notice that the tip is sensitive to your touch. You may even become aroused yourself. If you have never given head or haven't done it many times, you should give these therapeutic hand jobs often to get acquainted with his penis. After a few hand sessions, tease him during the next hand job by making circles with your tongue around the tip and "mushroom" shaped area, get used to placing your tongue and lips around it. He will enjoy the surprise guest. His pleasure should arouse you, if you are not moist then continue to do this every now and then until you are.
Once you are used to the look, feel and initial taste of the dick you are ready to move on to the oral part. While giving him a hand job that includes your surprise guest, take this time to go further than the tip, lick the entire length of the penis as if it's his tongue, very slow and make a little eye contact... not too much though your focus has to be the dick. See how he responds with anticipation, continue licking until his penis is at it's peak. Isn't it sexy to see how big it is all because you licked it, doesn't it turn you on just knowing you have the power to please your man with more than just your coochie?
Once you get your power rush you are ready to put him inside of your mouth and remember those things you did while using your hand. You went up and down, do not try to put the whole thing in your mouth; it is too early for you and you may ruin all of your mental preparation especially if he is big and you gag. Take your time, it's not a contest and he is just going to be happy you are doing it. It is not expected of you to stay down there forever so relax and continue to visualize how good this dick is when it's inside of you and remember that saliva helps, it will help to keep him aroused and keep your lips from chapping during the session. Be sexy by moaning and using your hands to give attention to the rest of him i.e. his thighs, chest, balls and stomach. He is bound to join in and caress your hair, shoulders or breasts depending on what's within his reach. You can do this for a few minutes and trust me he'll be glad you tried it.
Note: if he pushes your head down to get in deeper and you don't like it: discontinue the head. He'll be sure not to do it the next time you decide to give him oral.
When you start to practice this orientation head after a while you may find yourself enjoying it, you may even join in by masturbating as you suck his dick, it is a great way to connect his pleasure with your own and he'll enjoy the view. Making eye contact is necessary but not during the entire process. He wants to look at you and he's more comfortable doing so when you are focused on pleasing him, not watching his :O faces. Once you have this down and you begin to get used to giving him head, you should be ready to go all the way. You should be ready to suck him until he reaches orgasm. First thing's first consistency. You must be prepared to use the same tongue/mouth motions because like the clitoris once it's ready to :O the motion needs to be swift, steady and slippery. Keep in mind that your mouth is like the vagina during oral and you need to be moving up and down on the dick, you may include your hands into the motion to add pressure for his pleasure. Saliva or moisture is also a necessity, you don't want to use lube unless it's flavored. We personally don't like the way any lube tastes and saliva works the best because it's already in your mouth. Pay close attention to the nuts and legs, when they become stiff and drawn in it's show time. Don't get to geeked, it may be a womp womp so keep going at your same pace until the :O appears. Swallowing is for the truly freaky and is completely up to you. If you are not a swallower (us either sorry but we just can't) you may want to let him know before going down there so that you guys have a signal for you to move before he cums. You may also catch it in your mouth and discreetly get rid of it afterward.
TIPS FOR INCREASING YOUR DESIRE TO SUCK IT:
Masturbate without orgasming before going down on him. It will create anticipation and you'll already be aroused and ready for some action.
Using your breasts. Place him inside your cleavage (don't forget the lube to avoid chaffing) and move your twins up and down the length of his dick it will feel good to both of you and he'll enjoy the view.
Asking him to play with or lick your pussy while you give him oral.
Playing a flick loudly while you are going down on him the moans may help to get you in the mood.
*This is only advice for women who are in a relationship with a man whom they love enough to learn to satisfy orally. If you are only involved in a booty call he is not worth giving good head or any head to IMO
The key to getting oral sex
Most men don't know the answer to that question because most women don't like asking for what they really want in bed. Sadly and many women in relationships aren't being satisfied orally by their man. Women want oral sex maybe more than men do. There are a lot of women whose pussies aren't being licked as often as they like. The mere thought of asking a man for oral is seen as being too aggressive so waiting for him to do so is usually what happens. Unless the girl is fortunate enough to have a guy who enjoys licking pussy as much as or more than she enjoys getting it licked.
You have some men who either don't like doing it or don't know how his making his bedmate miserable although she is probably sucking him off on a daily basis with no reciprocation. To that I say, ladies speak up for your vagina. Any man that has a problem going down on you doesn't deserve to dive inside of your pool either. If he can't put his mouth on it then why bother. Head is universal and to get it from a guy as often as you'd like you must speak up about it. Not in a rude or raunchy way though, although some guys are turned on by dirty talk (those guys usually don't have a problem eating pussy)... Most like subtle hints i.e. while foreplay is in full effect, you can just put your pussy in his face and if he doesn't get the hint to do his duty then politely command him "lick that pussy." No horny guy is going to tell you no especially while getting inside you is on the line. He is going to comply whether he enjoys doing it or not.
There are also men who don't give oral at all. They don't believe in it or are afraid that they can't get it right. To them I say get a clue or admit that you are a pillow bitter. There is nothing more selfish than a man who won't give head. The only thing you can do with this man is get him acclimated to clit kissing, suffer and go without being orally satisfied, or ditch the self centered bastard and find a guy who is willing to satisfy your needs. As for the guy who is insecure about his lip service, you can work with him. Show him that you like it and teach him how to increase his skill level with games such as "Spell My Name" and "Tootsie Roll". A man willing to learn the trade is definitely worth teaching it to and you'll both have fun in the process. And teacher be sure to reward the pupil for his good behavior.
Building your confidence to ask a man for what you want isn't really that hard. Unless you are truly a prude, you should be comfortable talking to your man about anything especially when it comes to your sex life. I never understand the type of woman who is more comfortable talking about her sex life with her girlfriends than she is with her guy. If you don't think he is open to this type of communication then you may want to rethink the entire relationship.
Sex is very important to the intimacy of a relationship and being comfortable enough to discuss your needs will show him that he can also be comfortable expressing his to you. If don't know how to approach it the best time is while you are both in the heat of the moment, you just ask him to take the trip down south. There's no doubt that he'll do it. If he ignores you, that should be considered a red flag. Other ways of tackling the issue is by watching a flick together which has a hot oral scene and you can mention how great it feels when he does it to you or how hot you get after getting oral; he'll get the hint. A man that is too selfish to give you head is a man that needs to be alone, or as I stated earlier with another dude.
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